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Bad behavior!
Hi, I recently attended a golf day out with my husband [it's only the second time I have done this]. We were paired up with two other gents and from the off one of them took a great dislike to me. He did not speak to me once during the round even though I tried to be friendly and make polite conversation when appropriate. Worst of all he stood directly opposite me when I was taking a shot whenever he could. I am told this is not unusual behavior but it completely ruined my day. It has put me off going to another event like this.
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Re: Bad behavior!
Your experience is certainly one that should never happen in golf (or anywhere else for that matter), but unfortunately, there are quite a few out there whose behavior denotes serious problems. Best case, unless you wish to create an intervention, is to agree with yourself (in advance) that if such a thing ever occurs again, you will take 30 seconds to consider, in your thoughts, that such a person is unworthy (using whatever choice language you are comfortable with) to be in the same place with you, and when the 30 seconds is over, "blow it off" and ignore that person for the duration.
That kind of behavior is not your problem unless you adopt it and take it personally. You might enjoy the little book "The Four Agreements" by Ruiz. The second "agreement" he lists is "Don't take anything personally."
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Another possibility is that is has something to do with you being a woman. Unfortunately, there is a lot of racism and sexism on the golf course (at least the ones that I have played on).
I've heard comments from other players like, "It figures we get behind a group of blacks" or "Guys be ready for some slow play, the group in front of us has women." Maybe the guy you were playing with feels this way toward female golfers.Comment
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You will probably find he is like that with everyone. Some people are, unfortunately.
Don't dwell on it, most golfers are nice people.Comment
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